When we talk about neurodivergence, we often focus on triggers-situations that cause stress, overwhelm, or sensory overload. While understanding and managing these is important, we should also be looking for glimmers-the small moments that bring us a sense of calm, connection, and joy.
Deb Dana, author of The Polyvagal Theory in Therapy, describes glimmers as:
“Small moments when our biology is in a place of connection or regulation, which cues our nervous system to feel safe or calm.”
Glimmers are personal, unique, and sometimes completely unexpected. But when we recognise them, we can actively seek them out to help regulate our nervous system, making daily life feel a little more balanced.
What Are My Glimmers?
For me, glimmers come in the form of stickers-specifically, colourful neurodiversity-affirming and positive mental health stickers. I love sticking them on my notebooks and even slipping them into my daughter’s lunchbox. They are small reminders of positivity and self-acceptance.
I also find organisation deeply satisfying. Seeing a neatly arranged space, especially if it has labels, gives me a sense of clarity and peace.
And then there are textures—particularly fluffy blankets. My daughter and I both share this one! She “borrowed” mine, so I had to buy another, and now we both seek them out whenever we need to feel wrapped in comfort.
A Young Person’s Glimmers
When I spoke to a young person I work with about this, they shared their own glimmers:
🌕 Seeing the full moon from their bed: “It makes me feel calm, peaceful, and happy.”
🎆 Fireworks: “I feel a bit lighter, happy, and content.”
🍽️ Toad in the hole for dinner: “Makes my feet wiggle.”
Glimmers don’t have to be big. They can be as simple as a favourite food, a familiar texture, or a sight that brings peace.
What Are Your Glimmers?
I’d love to hear about your glimmers! What small moments make you feel safe, happy, or calm?
(Accompanied by an image of Steph’s colourful, neurodiversity-affirming stickers!)
